A LOCAL priest has called on people to make a new commitment to communication and openness.
Fr Jerry Carey was speaking at the funeral of Ennis man Niall White, who died suddenly last week.
In his homily at St Joseph’s church on Thursday, Fr Carey said Niall had been loved by his family and wide circle of friends.
He recalled visiting the White family home last week and seeing many young people who had called to pay their respects. He said it was important that friends of Niall know they are loved and valued by their community.
He said, “Some questions will be left unanswered, some questions only beg us to see the answer that’s right in front of us. To look around at the faces in the back garden these last three days, the first thing you knew was the love with which Niall is held and because of that love, the pain of his passing.”
He continued, “He is much loved and adored. There is also something that is yelling at us to recognise…. each person who stood in that back garden is much loved and adored without exception.
“Our immediate challenge is to find a new language, a new way to communicate that to each other, to make this a propriety.”
Fr Carey said people had travelled from across the world to attend the funeral.
He added, “I think it’s fair to say that when sudden death comes our way, we are forced to pause, put a lot on hold…. Over these days we have seen people fly from Canada, Aus- tralia, England, from all over, gathered around the hearth of the White family to pay our respects, not so much with words as with the mere act of presence…often in silence. Knowing that questions were forming in our minds yet knowing that answers would be impossible to come by.
“There has been much love shown these past days within family and between families, between friends and new acquaintances, between neighbours and travellers from all parts.”
Addressing Niall’s parents, Pat and Mary and his sister Ciara, Fr Carey said the ceremony would honour “Niall’s life, his spiritual being, his love of family, his loyalty to friendship, the part he played in sport through Lifford FC, St Joseph’s Doora Barefield, and Clare county teams”.
He acknowledged Niall’s capacity as a “dreamer, of who he might be”.
Fr Carey continued, “When death comes suddenly, it does force us to put our lives on pause, to consider, maybe briefly what really needs our attention, our concern and our worry.
“We’ve seen over these past days the value of the bond of family, the value of the bond of friendships. That these things have a pricelessness of unimaginable measure….yes these bonds of affection, love and friendship ebb and flow they are all part of a bigger picture that sometimes creeps in and out of focus”
Remembering Niall’s warm personality, he quoted the words of the Polish cleric, Cardinal Stefan Wyszynski, saying, “I believe in hands that work, in minds that think, in hearts that love. A friendly look and a smile often say more than friendly speech.”